Jessica Zucker has made it her mission to change this. The clinical psychologist, who specializes in women’s reproductive and maternal mental health, created the #IHadAMiscarriage campaign in 2014 to break down the stigma around pregnancy loss.
Each year for Pregnancy and Infant Loss Awareness Month, Zucker has introduced new initiatives and products like empathy cards, T-shirts and art prints meant to foster conversation around different aspects of miscarriage. This October, her focus is “Rites, Rituals and Representation.”
“In a culture that lacks standardized rites and rituals specific to pregnancy/infant loss, this chapter of the campaign invites us to create our own,” she told HuffPost. “I hope to impress upon culture that it is never too late to ritualize our experiences.”
Zucker collaborated with poet and artist Skin on Sundays to help 10 women honor and memorialize their losses.
The group of 10 includes Zucker, who had a miscarriage at 16 weeks. October marks the sixth anniversary of that loss.
For the “Rites, Rituals and Representation” initiative, Zucker interviewed the women about their miscarriages and stillbirths, and then Skin on Sundays wrote poems on their bodies based on their experiences.
Keep scrolling to see more photos of the participants and read the poems memorializing their losses.
“It’s freeing to be able to express yourself and to express your mourning, to express the fear.” — Jude
that forms from
your deep wilderness.
It’s not just your uterus.
your fear too
Does that change
how the darkness moves,
how the light?
“It’s like a scar that you’ll always have that can take a lifetime to heal.” — Mary
The secret: love is bodilessly
(the soul doesn’t start at the body).
The murmur here is like the moving air
left behind starlings.
They are using a tongue
so huge, it will break you
until you don’t miss it.
“When I envision a culture that replaces silence with storytelling, I feel safe.” — Claudia
The soft beat
of a blueberry
when it falls
to the earth
on the body’s
“I had four pregnancy losses.” — Jessica W.
Tragedy and love
are filled with the same
“This was my first pregnancy, and nobody ever told me I could lose my baby. I thought [stillbirth] was just from the Middle Ages. I did not realize that it could happen to me.” — Trisha
I am walking through
the frozen fields of myself
where I find you on the other side
of a steel door.
If love were a substance
it couldn’t reach you here.
Only what remains when
love is stripped of touch.
“After my first miscarriage, I was feeling alone and scared.” — Shannon
come with rain,
the stunning hope,
the branches fallen
from a storm
that were cleaned up
and hauled off.
“‘I can’t even imagine.’ I heard that a lot. And it’s like, yeah, you can’t.” — Miriam
to the next.
“In healing, there is no timeline. In grieving, there is no right or wrong way to do it.” — Paula