Praising your kids for being ‘smart’ might feel like the most natural thing in the world, but experts actually recommend parents avoid complimenting your child’s intelligence. The reasoning behind this counterintuitive advice goes back to Stanford psychologist Carol Dweck’s pioneering work on growth versus fixed mindsets.
Dweck found that people do better believing they can grow than thinking they are born with the ability to, and this is what Dweck observed. You might tell your children that you are smart, and then they will start to think smarts is something they have. As a result they may start to fear pushing their boundaries because they’re worried they’ll discover they’re less smart than they thought they were. Praise your child’s efforts and you’ll see that their abilities will change according to how hard we work.
The same, apparently, goes for resilience, according to a fascinating, quirky new study of a university marching band. The research, which was recently published in Group & Organization Management and highlighted on the British Psychological Society Research Digest Blog, followed the emotional ups and downs of student musicians throughout a demanding 12-week period. The research found that mental strength was less a static quantity, and more a result of circumstances and beliefs.
Learn from marching band members how to be resilient
Researchers studied each member of the band’s personalities before they started the study. They also tracked their commitment and emotional state throughout the semester to reach this conclusion. The scientists discovered that certain students were resilient and could withstand difficult situations, while others would succumb to pressure.
It’s quite the contrary.
Although emotional stability may be linked to less burnout and emotional exhaustion and intentions to leave the band, most researchers found that musicians’ mental health was affected by their circumstances and the length of time they were in the band. The longer the musician stayed the greater the risk of becoming burnout.
The results show that resilience does not just depend on personal characteristics. BPS says that while emotional stability was a factor in how committed the participants were to their band, it also had an impact on how they travelled. Other factors such as how long they have been involved with the group were important. According to the authors, resilience is not a static process. It fluctuates with time and does not stay stable.
Mental power isn’t an inexorable quantity.
Just like those who believe you’re either smart enough or you’re not are more likely to give up in the face of setbacks, those who believe some people are simply tougher than others are less likely to successfully surf the emotional ups and downs of challenging situations. This research is a happy reminder that resilience isn’t a fixed quantity — your ability to tough it out can grow over time or decline given particularly difficult circumstances.
This is a crucial lesson both for entrepreneurs and trombonists. Believe that exhaustion and doubt are a sign of weak character and you’re more likely to give up at the first hint of burnout. Instead, think about this study on stressed-out student musicians. You’ll be more inclined to keep your dream alive when things get difficult.
Publiated at Mon, 30 August 2021 09:25:00 +0000