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Royal rift: Rows ‘make children feel insecure and unloved’ – impact can ‘last generations’

An expert, looking at the royal rift, has given his advice to people in similar familial situations. Neil Wilkie is a relationship expert, psychotherapist, author of the Relationship Paradigm Series of Books and creator of online couples therapy, The Relationship Paradigm.

He spoke to Express.co.uk about family rifts after the reported fallout within the Royal Family.

Rumours of a rift had been reported for months before Prince Harry and Meghan Markle made shock allegations that “several conversations” took place among unnamed members of the family, concerning their son Archie’s skin tone.

The Duchess said in the interview: “In those months, when I was pregnant, all around this same time, we had in tandem the conversation of he won’t be given security, he won’t be given a title … and also concerns and conversations about how dark his skin will be when he’s born.

“That was relayed to me from Harry, that was from conversations that family had with him. It was really hard to see those as compartmentalized conversations.”

The Duchess of Sussex also said she was made to cry by Prince William‘s wife Kate Middleton.

Prince Harry claimed he had been financially cut off by his father Prince Charles.

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A Clarence House spokesperson responded to these claims and said: “As we’ll all remember in January 2020 when the Duke and Duchess announced that they were going to move away from the working royal family, the Duke said that they would work towards becoming financially independent.

“The Prince of Wales allocated a substantial sum to support them with this transition. That funding ceased in the summer of last year, and the couple is now financially independent.”

Neil Wilkie warned rifts within the family can have impacts on children, which could last generations.

He told Express.co.uk: “Family rifts can fester and last for generations.

“It is really important that parents deal with these to avoid their children inheriting unhelpful and unnecessary bad feelings or dislocations from their wider family.”

The expert claimed, “there are two really important issues to address.”

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He advised parenting in family disputes “ensure (their) children feel loved and secure.”

He said: “A rift can resonate and make children feel insecure and unloved.

“If the rift is causing you to feel angry, upset or resentful these negative emotions will spill over and pollute the life of your children.

“If your children were very fond of the relatives concerned, they may blame you or feel that, in some way, they were to blame. You must ensure that they know that they are loved by you and that you are doing your best to resolve the problems.

“Children often believe that their relationships will have to be like their parents. So, if it is loving and harmonious, they are very fortunate and will carry that into their futures.

“If it is unhappy and argumentative, they will carry that shadow with them because ‘that is how relationships are’ unless they can find a better model they can apply in their lives.”

He warns children will pick up on much more than their parents may realise.

“Couples may believe that they can keep their disagreements hidden and their frustrations swept under the carpet,” he said.

“Children will pick up, at least subconsciously, if the relationships their parents are having do not feel right.

“Children need to see that differences are part of life and that they can be dealt with amicably.

“They also need to experience that life can be a bumpy ride and that their parents can handle this as a team.”

David also suggested Meghan Markle and Prince Harry’s Oprah interview made “resolution much harder.” 

He said: “It’s even harder in the case of celebrities or the Royal Family because they are in the glare of publicity and disagreements make juicy TV or column inches.

“Expressing your family angst in front of millions of viewers or readers can only create a hardening of positions and makes resolution much harder when one side would have to publicly proclaim that they were wrong.”

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Brit slams green list tests as way for Government to ‘make money’ – ‘wouldn’t do it again’

Gibraltar has been on the Government’s green list for travel since May, meaning Britons can fly off to the overseas territory without the need to self-isolate on their return home. While the experience may sound straightforward, it’s one that comes at a soaring cost.

According to Emma, a London-based recruiter, it is this element of the restrictions around travel that put her off jetting off to another green country in the future.

Emma and her friends made the last-minute decision to switch their long weekend holiday booking from Ibiza to Gibraltar after it became clear Spain would not make it onto the green list.

“We were kind of watching the news and thought: ‘This doesn’t look good,’” she told Express.co.uk.

“We had kind of heard the rumours popping up on Twitter and said: ‘Should we do it?’

“We just switched everything before the actual announcement came out, but within 24 hours of that announcement, there wasn’t a single hotel room left in Gibraltar. We got really lucky.

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To travel back to the UK from a green list country, arrivals must take a COVID-19 test within 72 hours before departure – a rule the women were prepared for.

Yet, according to Emma, it seems the Government are keen to “make money” from these rules.

She explained: “You get a test when you arrive in Gibraltar, but to get back into Britain, it’s actually quite a lot of work.

“Even though you get a test when you arrive, and my test was within the 72 hours of me returning, the free test from the Gibraltar authorities doesn’t count as a UK recognised test, even though it’s a part of the UK.”

She continued: “We had to pay to get another departure test, literally the same day 15 minutes after the first test, at the cost of £30 because it comes with a UK QR code.

“This is despite the fact they are administered in the exact same place, the exact same way, from the exact same people.

“But the UK one cost us £30 because it comes with a certificate and not just a text message, which was quite annoying.”

Though Emma is fully vaccinated, she points to an additional cost which the particularly vaccinated members of her travel party were also slapped with.

“Two of the girls had only had one vaccine but only found out that non-vaccinated people needed a negative test at the airport.

“We had booked everything and we had already checked it.

“We had completed all of our Passenger Locator Forms and booked our test for arrival.

“Then one of us just happened to check and found that out.

“Considering Gibraltar had all of our contact details, no one emailed or texted.

“The UK Government didn’t text us, and the airline didn’t let us know.”

She added: “A lot of people were complaining when they went because they got slammed at the airport with extra tests. A lot of people were moaning.”

Emma, who is fully vaccinated, says it is these costly requirements that make holidays in the near future out of reach for many, including herself.

“It’s a risk,” she said.

“For a weekend trip, I probably wouldn’t do it again.

“If I was going to go abroad for a little bit longer, maybe, but then you get the scramble like when Portugal was moved from the green list to the amber list.

“If Britain decides to change their mind, you’re potentially screwed.

“So I probably won’t travel too much.”

She added: “It’s just an annoyance because you don’t have a choice if you have to quarantine.

“Test to release is a lot [of money].

“So unless your work is very, very flexible, or you are an office worker who gets to work from home it’s not worth the risk.”

Author: Aimee Robinson
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Amber Portwood Promises Daughter Leah, 12, She’ll ‘Make Things Right’ After Birthday Party Drama

Amber Portwood sent her daughter, Leah, an Easter message following the March 30 episode of ‘Teen Mom OG,’ in which fans saw how strained their bond has become.

Amber Portwood[1] was thinking of her daughter, Leah, on Easter following a difficult episode of Teen Mom OG[2] that highlighted their difficult mother-daughter relationship. The MTV star, 30, took to Instagram on Easter, April 4, and posted a selfie photo of herself with her 12-year-old, whom she shares with Gary Shirley. “I know you are going through a lot and there are many things I need to do to make things right. However, I will always love you, my beautiful daughter. Love you and Happy Easter,” she wrote as the caption. You can see the post below.

The post comes following the March 30 episode[3] of Teen Mom OG, which featured Leah getting ready for her 12th birthday in November 2020. After her dad asked Leah if she’d like to invite her mom, Amber, Leah became noticeably uncomfortable with the idea. “We don’t really have a bond like that. Twelve years and she hasn’t really done anything. That’s kind of been, like, Kristina’s spot,” Leah told her dad[4], referencing her stepmom.

But Gary was able to convince his daughter to extend an invitation to her mom. “I don’t want you writing your mom off and saying, ‘I can’t have a relationship with her’ and that kind of thing,” Gary said to Leah, adding, “because, you know, at some point, you should have a relationship with her.” But Amber made the decision not to attend Leah’s birthday festivities, expressing that she’d rather spend time with her away from cameras at a later date.

Following the March 30 episode, circumstances became even more tense between Amber and Gary. The reality TV star took to Instagram Live[9] and referred to Gary’s wife, Kristina, as a “homewrecker,” among other insults. “I was told when I got out [of jail] that I would have a family waiting for me,” Amber said in the recirculated video. But the video seemed to be further proof of how strained Amber’s relationships have become.

“[Leah] respects [Kristina] because she brings her out to Starbucks, gets her nails done and spends over a thousand something dollars of clothing on her. Hell, I’d respect her too. I was raised to not spoil my child. Kristina doesn’t do anything for Leah. She doesn’t take care of my daughter. Leah wanted to live with me until they went to Disney World,” Amber claimed[10].

References

  1. ^ Amber Portwood (hollywoodlife.com)
  2. ^ Teen Mom OG (hollywoodlife.com)
  3. ^ March 30 episode (hollywoodlife.com)
  4. ^ Leah told her dad (hollywoodlife.com)
  5. ^ @AmberLPortwood (twitter.com)
  6. ^ #TeenMomOG (twitter.com)
  7. ^ pic.twitter.com/yIPAEuc0VL (t.co)
  8. ^ March 30, 2021 (twitter.com)
  9. ^ took to Instagram Live (hollywoodlife.com)
  10. ^ Amber claimed (hollywoodlife.com)

Julia Teti