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Why More American Women are Delaying Motherhood in their 20s

“The perceived price of having children has really increased since I first talked to women in the mid-1990s,” said Kathryn Edin, a sociologist at Princeton University who has spent years writing about low-income families. “Even among the poorest women, there’s a recognition that a career is part of a life course.”

At the same time, there was more of a glorification of work in American culture, and workplaces began expecting employees to be available around the clock. Yet there is little in the way of policies to help parents combine work and family.

Parenting, too, became more stressful. American parents spend more money and time on their children than any previous generation, and many feel immense pressure to be constantly teaching their children, enrolling them in enrichment classes and giving them their undivided attention. This is known as intensive parenting, and while it used to be an upper-middle-class phenomenon, it is now rising fast across all social classes.

Ms. Schoenherr is acutely aware of how much the demands of parenting have changed. She was born on a bean and corn farm in Illinois. Her parents divorced when she was 2, and her grandmother babysat while her mother was at work. She remembers long days of riding her bike and coming home when the streetlights came on.

“Back then you could let your kids do whatever and you wouldn’t be judged,” she said. “Now there’s so much mom shaming. You are looked down on if you are not fully focused on your kid.”

A number of women said they wanted to avoid the schedules of their working-class parents because they were inflexible and allowed little time for play or family activities.

Alejandra De Santiago, of Surprise, Ariz., remembers yearning for her mother to stop by school during lunch the way other mothers did, but she was always working. Her parents, a house cleaner and a truck driver, both immigrants from Mexico, divorced when she was 7, and she was raised mostly by her grandmother, while her mother worked.

Author: Sabrina Tavernise, Claire Cain Miller, Quoctrung Bui and Robert Gebeloff
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Anna Williamson opens up about isolating experience of motherhood during pandemic

The TV Presenter, 39, gave birth to her second child Eleanora three months before the nation plunged into its first lockdown in March last year. Anna has just launched the It Takes A Village podcast which showcases National Lottery-funded charities offering support to mothers needing extra hope, advice and guidance at this time.
She said: “We’ve all been feeling very isolated and I know it’s been a very different motherhood experience second time round for me. I have a four year old and then have a one year old daughter from just before the pandemic started.

“I noticed the difference enormously and I can only imagine how isolating it must be for first time parents.”

Speaking ahead of Mother’s Day tomorrow, Anna told how she has persuaded her 71-year-old mum to start using Whatsapp in a bid to stay connected and spend special occasions together remotely.

She said: “I would really encourage people to encourage their elderly relatives to get up to date with technology because I really think they will enjoy it. Seeing the pictures and videos of what you’re getting up to will just make their day.”

“I would say really utilise technology to speak to them, have them propped up on the dinner table or at Mother’s Day lunch and have them join through that.” 

“And next Mother’s Day, hopefully, will be a whole different picture,” she added.

The three podcast episodes released so far ahead of Mother’s Day highlight baby banks, grief and loss, as well as the importance of mental and physical health in parenting.

The mother of two, who is married to former personal trainer Alex Di Pasquale, added: “The response so far has been really great. I think people really enjoyed hearing about stories that perhaps they would have never heard or even known about otherwise.”

“We’ve got three episodes of our little Mother’s Day mini series to celebrate good causes and I had six incredible interviewees who are all doing amazing things with the help of lottery funding.”

It Takes A Village podcast can be found on Spotify or through the National Lottery website.